Sometimes, shit happens. We act foolishly, we respond inadequately, we behave impulsively.
We are creatures of habit.
We’ve allowed the World to step on our freedom for so long, that we no longer find it safe to stand up for ourselves.
These uncomfortable moments, they are begging for our attention to something within us. Not our inadequacies, but our growing edges.
These moments of discomfort bring to our attention something we aren’t “okay” with. These feelings share with us something deep within us, which we haven’t spent time with in a while. An old memory, a fear, a resentment, etc.
This is a great place to begin. We are neither behind or ahead of where we should be. We are exactly where we need to be. In our hearts. Feeling. Growing.
When thoughts come rushing in and we’re caught off guard, in the middle of a crowd anticipating an answer, searching for an exit…
How do we reduce pain? Pain in this moment.
How do I avoid the pain of negative ruminating thoughts? Thoughts that come rushing in and will not let me be.
What do you do? How do you respond? Is it serving your highest good?
I’ve hurt others, I’ve missed out on opportunities, I’ve embarrassed myself.
Sometimes, the event itself is less painful than the onslaught of obsessive thoughts that linger well after the fact.
Although, it’s uncomfortable to be in this place of rumination and despair, I realize it’s asking me to pay attention.
Imagine your thoughts are weeds.
Pull the Weed out by the root.
Expose it’s beginnings, and how it gains nourishment.
If all else fails, say the following:
“YOU ARE JUST AN APPEARANCE AND IN NO WAY THE REAL THING”
An excerpt from How to Be Free, a translation of Epictetus’ handbook on Stoicism.
Our thoughts only become reality if we fixate on them long enough. So don’t afford your negative thoughts this opportunity.
Care for your mental space, as you would for your garden.
Don’t allow those negative ruminating thoughts to steal nourishment from the thoughts that bring you well-being.
When thoughts come rushing in… expose them.
Remove the weeds invading your garden!